Suicide is something that affects more people than we often realise, individuals, families, and entire communities feel the impact (Goldstone & Bantjes, 2019). About four years ago, our community lost a close friend who died by suicide. He was kind, caring, and deeply loved. His passing showed us that even when someone seems okay on the outside, they might be going through something we can’t see. But it also reminded us that we can learn to spot the warning signs and step in, whether to help someone else or to ask for help ourselves.

If you’re here, reading this, because you’re worried about someone, or because you’re going through a tough time yourself, I just want to say: you’re not alone and there is hope.

Recognising the Warning Signs

As we are all human beings, we are different, therefore, presenting signs of suicide will be different and some may hide them well. But here are some common signs to look out for compiled from Suicide Prevention Resource Centre (2016):

Emotional and Mental Signs

• Talking about feeling hopeless, trapped, or being a burden to others
• Feeling intense guilt, shame or anger
• Showing signs of unbearable emotional pain
• Expressing no reason to live or having a sudden preoccupation with death
• Experiencing a recent episode of depression, anxiety or emotional distress
• A sudden shift in mood, such as becoming unusually calm after a deep sadness

Behavioural Changes

• Withdrawing from friends, family or activities they once cared for
• Giving away valued possessions or saying goodbye to loved ones
• Losing interest in personal hygiene or appearance
• Showing changes in sleeping or eating habits
• Increase use of alcohol or drugs
• Engaging in or being a victim of violence

Critical Red Flags of Suicide

• A recent suicide attempt
• Talking about death more than usual, or expressing a desire to die
• Sudden and unexplained changes in behaviour or personality

While these signs don’t always mean someone is considering suicide, they do mean it’s time to reach out, listen, and offer support.

What to Say To Someone Contemplating Suicide

If you’re concerned about someone, don’t ignore that feeling, your instincts are important.

It’s okay to ask them directly:
“I’ve seen that things seem really tough lately. Have you been thinking about ending your life?”

Asking won’t cause suicidal thoughts, in fact, it might be the opening they need to talk about what they’re going through.

You don’t have to have the perfect words or all the answers. What really matters is that you show up, listen without judgment, and let them know they’re not alone. Just your presence can make a big difference.

Practical Resources and Support For Suicidal Thoughts

No one should have to walk this path alone. Whether you’re looking for help for yourself or someone you care about, here are some trusted support services:

• Find a helpline near you — by country

You can also speak to a GP, therapist, or counsellor. Help is available and healing is possible.

Do not hesitate to further reach out to The Mustard Seedtree via on 062 1848866

Conclusion

If you’re struggling right now, I want to say this clearly: you matter. Your pain is valid, but it does not define your future. There is no shame in reaching out, in asking for help, in beginning again. If you’re supporting someone else, thank you for showing up. Your compassion can be a lifeline.